Like It Or Not

Yes, like it or not, that title I believe fits this post perfectly. For reality needs to hit someone apparently right now. I hope they wind up reading this and get that these are things that will not change any time soon. Most likely never.

 Reality time:
1. Like it or not, GOD, my hubby, my children, my family come first in my life. No one comes between my faith in God, my hubby, or my children.
 
2. Like it or not, yes I will do all I can to protect my children when it comes to their well-being. Even if they do not want it. Especially when they are still under 18.
    Side note: Under 18 is not a woman. A 16 yr. old is not a woman! It is a young lady! That means you should ask my permission to chat with them. If I say yes also respect any limitations I put on that chat. If you are an adult and not family unless I give you permission otherwise you should not be talking to them about their personal or even family life. (Especially other family members) It's none of your business!

3. Like it or not any child under 18 in my home is never allowed to have a serious girlfriend or boyfriend again until 18. Made that mistake one. Left it go to far and it backfired for all involved. Kids should be concentrating on school, friends, and extra activities like sports or music. They have the rest of their lives to fall in love.
    I know some might feel this is ridiculous. That falling in love as a teen is natural. No it is not. Teens think with hormones and their minds are out of whack and so is the rest of their body. They in no way shape or form or ready to fall in love and get engaged.

4. Like it or not, I will fight for my children.

5. Like it or not, I know that my children at times will get angry with me and hubby's rules. But I can handle that. They will get over it and someday thank me for looking out for their best interests and well-being during a time when they were not always thinking straight. During that stage in life when they might of done something they thought came from their heart but later in life realize it came from their hormones.

6. Like it or not, I raise my children as I see fit and by what God tells me to do and no one else.
   Side note: If you have yet to raise 2 children fully as I have and had them turn out okay or better don't even think you can know better than me what is best for my child. Wait even if you have what worked for your child may not be what is best for mine.

7. Like it or not, If I do not see a parent as a good parent or they seem to just be trying to be their child's best friend instead of the person or one of the people who molds them into a decent adult. Well, then don't get all worked up when I do not trust you when it comes to my child or your child(ren) either. I'm not out to judge you. Go ahead if you want to raise your child that way or whatever way you choose. But as a parent of my child I have the right to the decision not to trust you or your child(ren).

8. Like it or not. Once I catch you in a lie, I will not ever trust you again!

9. I do let my children make many choices of their own and let them learn from them. But they have the rest of their lives to learn about falling in love and how to handle it. They do not need that in their lives as teens under 18. They have to many raging hormones and have enough to deal with as their body and minds change and developing. Mater a fact if my children are 100% honest with a person they will tell you I do not interfere in any decisions except anything involving a too serious relationship when they are still a child or drugs. That is unless they ask me to and I think it is something I or their father should handle for them. But we only do it if our child asks first. It's called parents and family looking out for one another.
 
10. Like it or not, Our one daughter's recent break up. Well, there is more to the entire thing than anyone outside our family will ever know. I no longer feel we owe even the boy's parents an explanation. They both lost that right to our side the day the relationship ended. Even more so when we realized how much lying was really going on.  Let's just way we know the truth and have caught way to many in to many lies and other things. Also we gave tons of chances that were taken for granted. Yes, we stepped in because that is what parents do when there is any chance that their child is being put at risk or participating in risky behavior. Also those who have been spreading lies that we told others why we ended it are lying! We told no one! Also I never said he was definitely doning the one thing. My words were we are being told this and this. But even suspicion of such is enough we had to interfere for her own good.

11. Like it or not even if we do not have proof but or given reason to suspect another could be putting a child of ours at risk, we take no chances. We cut them off from our lives and from our child's life.

12. Like it or not, our children, our rules or ways. Never said we were perfect. But this is our ways and  we know better than you what is best for our children. Some reading this may be like I know your child and you are wrong. ONe person in particular that thinks he knows our daughter and does not know her near as much as he thinks he does. If you think this that is proof enough that you do not know our child(ren) as well as you think you do. This works for us. It worked so far and we have 2 children fully raised. We also have friends who raised their children the same way and today those grown children including mine have thanked me and them for raising them(our children) this way. They say it made them into a wiser person than  a lot of people they know. Also stopped them from making a lot of stupid mistakes their teen hormones and minds would of had them making. Mistakes they would never make as adults because their minds and hormones are under better control. So as you see we are not going to change our Christian like ways of raising out children.