It's  hard to not notice that into days world there are so many parents that can't help but make you wonder. Wonder why they can't see what is right in front of them. They question why does my child do this and that. So many bad behaviors. The parents sit and play the blame game. Putting all the blame on others. But not once do they consider that they might be at fault. If not fully at least they share some of the blame.

  Yes, I believe in ADHD, ADD, Bipolar, and autism. I have a child myself with autism. But I also believe it is over diagnosed. Also never once did I let my child use her disorder as an excuse for her behavior. Also I realized a long time ago that children learn from example and in many cases children who do truly have these disorders, this is even more true. They tend to be very sensitive and more quickly to pick up what is going on around them. So many times I see children who behave badly and the parents wonder why. Parents are to lead by example. No you don't have to be perfect. But be careful what you as a parent say and do in front of your children. Especially when they are 1-5 yrs. of age. If they hear you cursing, yelling, joking about things. They will learn to do the same. Some say well I tell my child not to do as I do but as I say. At such a young age all a child can see is my mom and dad do it so it must be okay. Kids at that age think their parents can do no wrong. So if my mom and dad do it matter if they say it is wrong or not it can't be wrong. I myself have seen so many parents sit back and giggle/laugh when a child slips out a curse word when little. Than that child reaches an older age and the parent realizes the child is doing this again and again. They are displaying these behaviors at school and the parent(s) get defensive when the teacher tells them their child is acting up at school. The same parent wants to blame everyone else and/or ask why is my child behaving like this. A lot of them not once seem to want to look inside themselves. Yes, it's true that even a child raised in a good home can display bad behavior. But most times it has been proven that it is how the child is raised, especially the first five years of their lives. No child is perfect. So good kids, raised in good homes matter how many times mom and/or dad say don't do as those kids do but as mom and dad have taught you, they will still follow the example of other kids.
  Also from my own personal experience that theory if my kid is being bullied tell him to hit back and hit back harder or threaten too does not work out well. I mean I never told my older son that. I always told him to try and walk away but protect himself if need be. Well, he got fed up and fought back. He was always the one seen hitting and got in trouble. The other kids who started it all and did the bullying never got caught. At least not until it got real bad. It took another kid threatening his life and attempting to kill him. My son realized through that he was better off to try and walk away when ever possible and to keep on telling everyone he could that he was being bullied. That in time someone will listen.  There are other choices other than hitting back when not need be.
  I mean think about it we live in a time when bullying seems to be worse than ever. It use to be normal for boys to fight and to hear name calling. But now days you constantly are hearing about kids killing and making attempts on others lives. Where are our kids learning this. Not just from TV. Yes, we should monitor our kids TV watching, especially at a young age. Which is our responsibility not the entertainment industry. Kids are learning it from parents who they have seen do such behavior. Kids are learning it from parents who say hit back.
  I have taught my kids also telling is another good idea because they may be helping this child without realizing it. Maybe this kid behaves this way because they are being mistreated at home and/ or maybe they have something going on like a disorder that no one seems to be seeing. If this is the case by telling a grown up about the bullying they may get the help this child who is doing the bullying so desperately needs.
  It seems we have a world loaded with parents who do not want to take responsibility for their young child's behavior. The blame game is not the answer. As a parent when our child(ren) make bad choices we need to look inside ourselves as parents and ask our we at fault at all. For none of us are perfect parents. I have 5 children. One thing I have learned is I will never know it all as a parent. For not all kids can be disciplined the same way. After all children are individuals and parenting is a learning process that tends to start over with each individual child. For what works for one may not work for another. There are some things that the rule applies for all kids but disciplining for one is not one of them. We as parents will slip up. We will make mistakes. Something we should make sure our children know and try to help them understand. I tell my kids I am not perfect. Yes, I know I have made mistakes and will no doubt in the future make a few. What is important is that we learn from our mistakes and make sure our children see that.
  I know parenting is harder now than ever in today's world. My mom says she does not envy me having to raise children in today's world. We as adults tell out children don't fight. Even our older ones. Than they turn on the news as teens and hear of wars caused by adults. They hear congress not being able to compromise and all the arguing that is going on in politics. What an example our leaders our making to our children. As a parent all you can do is personally sit a better example. Don't have the TV on so much. Talk to your older children about what is going on in the word today. Even kids as young as 7/8 yrs. old are going to school and hearing about all this.
  
Things we do with all our children each day is tell them we love them. Spend individual time with them. We also asked them how their day went and if they need to talk to us about anything at all. We stay consistent with how we discipline them. We reward them for doing chores, good behavior and good at school. After all in life don't we usually at some point find we get rewarded for doing good and hard work ourselves usually.  I also make sure they have their school work done. Every day of my life God comes first. But along with that so does my family. A value that has all but disappeared in this country. As family values have been put more and more to the way side and more and more kids are growing up with just mom's who are working so much and a few even partying a lot we are raising a generation loaded with kids who are raising themselves and never learn wrong from right. Desperate these type of children are looking for someone's love and attention. So these kids tend make bad choices most the time. Theses kids if never touched by the right person can and many times grow to be destructive themselves and others easy victims for those who would like to bring them harm is some way.
  It's up to the adults. Parents and communities alike to take the steps to change how these kids are being raised. I have heard so many times from non believers and believers of God this is my child to raise I will do as I see fit. They feel that they have the right to treat children as they please. Well, they are wrong. God himself has clearly stated bring no harm to a child. That he will punish you. He also gave you this child as a gift. That child matter what you believe is God's first. If you are harming this child in anyway abuse, neglect, not training them up in what is wrong and what is right you are doing them harm. Also this child is not just a gift to you but the world. Yes, it's true if you are doing no harm and trying hard to be the best parent you can be you are doing no harm. It's okay to make mistakes but are you learning from them. But if not someday matter if you believe it are not you will like all other wrongs have to answer for this. For matter if you believe God is real or not does not make a difference in the fact that he is. That aside parents who raise their kids in abuse, neglect, or/and not teaching them wrong from right need to ask themselves someday when their child is raised what type of person do they want or prefer their child to be. One that helps the world or harms it.
                                                                      God Bless and thank you for taking the time to read this.