My Love Story

Story of  how me and my hubby became to be a couple.
  It was a few days before June 15th 1990 I remember. I was laying out in my back yard before I had to go to work. My dad yells for me. Tells me my mom is calling from work. I get to the phone first thing she asks me is how I feel about going out with a friend of her's son? I asked a few questions like what's his name, and how old is he? She tells me a little about him. I say yes.
  Now comes the night of our first date. My mom is thinking, I later learn they will be good friends in the end nothing more. He pulls up in front of our house driving a loud black Camero. Me thinking "What the hell did my mom sit me up with". Well, he knocks on the door I answer and bring him inside to meet my dad. He already knew my mom. He goes to shake my dad's hand when my wonderful brother Jeff steps in between them. Jeff shakes Kevin's hand but while doing so he says these exact word's to Kevin, " I am Sandy's big brother Jeff, You fuck with her I'll fuck with you. Jeff left for Germany right after that practically.
  Our first date Kevin was like no guy I had ever met. He was almost 4 yrs. older than me. He was amazing. Very respectful and never tried to over step any bounds. We talked for hours. When the date was over and he dropped me off my mom was waiting at the door hoping we hit it off as friends but nothing more. Was she in for a shock. When she asked me how did it go I told her I think I found my future husband.
  The very next night we had out second date. I then knew I was in-love. By the end of the second date we were inseparable. I went home and told my mom he was the one I was going to marry. She thought young love. It would pass. She hoped.
 For the first month of dating if I wasn't working we were together or talking on the phone. after 1 month of dating he popped the question(Will you marry me?) I said yes. Neither of our mothers were happy about the engagement. Said we were to young and rushing things. I said I was in-love and knew what I wanted. He said the same. I promised them I would graduated High School first before we actually got married.
 So for the next 2 yrs. basically we dated and had a long engagement. We had up and downs. Close breakups. Breakups that lasted a day then we would get back together. In June 1992 I graduated High School. The following Monday I started a new job. That follow weekend we broke up. Never really figured out why fully.
  But later on the break up and time apart would prove to be the best thing for our relationship. You know absence makes the heart grow fonder sort of thing. First 3 weeks. I worked, didn't eat, and cried myself to sleep every night. Then I started dating around and hanging with friends too. I started doing my best to move on. I knew there was a part of me that would always love him. But knew I had to move on.
Then it happened September I had a rare night I had nothing to do. The phone rings. My mom answers. Then gives me the phone. It's Kevin. He was wondering if we could be friends. He asks me to meet him somewhere. I decide yes.
  We meet and talk. I find out more about why he walked out on me or at least some of it. See his mom never liked me. My mom never thought he was good enough to marry me. Neither did my brothers. All this built up and he thought maybe it was impossible for us to make it work.
As we sat in the car we worked it all out. We both realized we were very much in-love. A week later we were engaged again.
  We had to tell our parents. His mom at first said I was not allowed in her home. But that lasted like a week. My mom was not happy at all. My dad after us being back together a little over a month gave me money right in front of my mom. Said go make your wedding plans. Gave Kevin his full blessings. My dad told my mom to butt out of our relationship. That we would be celebrating our 50th Wedding Anniversary someday. My DAD! He had never been there for me through anything. None of my parents really had. My dad said,"that we are in-love and the real thing. It all shocked me. Two weeks later we got married in a small church in Maryland.
 My mom still gave it a year at the most. His mom on our wedding day said she now knew we loved each other. That we were willing to risk losing our families to be together. And we were.
  As for our marriage we have had our ups and downs. All marriages do have their problems. We also have had a close call with my life too. Which made us even stronger. We have had a lot of things we have been through together that either make or break a relationship. They have made ours stronger.
 So here we are almost 23 1/2 yrs. since the day we met. 5 living children and 6 angels in heaven later and more in-love then ever. I tell people our secretes are communication, never letting anyone not even our children come in between our relationship, and being each others best friends. My hubby isn't real good with showing his emotions but yet we still find away to make it work. We are just the right fit. My weakness tend to be his strengths and the his weaknesses tend to be my strengths for one. On things we come out equal on or disagree on we meet in the middle and work things out. We walk away when mad and calm down. We made a rule that we only once ever broke too when we got married. We will never go to bed angry at one another. We do not sleep until it is worked out or at least we agree to disagree and work on working it out. We never go to bed mad at one another. Now days that is saying a lot too. He works 3rd shift. So we sleep most days at separate times.
I will never tell anyone and then it was happy ever after. Fairy Tales only exist in story books and movies. This is real life. In real life marriage and relationships of all sorts take work if they are going to survive and stand the test of time.