Was inspired to write this today

 

 

  Kids complaining about how hard they have it today. I agree with some things yes they have gotten much worse. The dangers out there have unfortunately increased But I have been out of High School going on 21 yrs. soon. We had dress codes back then too. It was pretty much the same one Hanover has now in the last few years of my High school education. We also had rules we had to obey.  In actuality I think they are a lot easier on Hanover High School kids in that way when it comes to rules. I mean compared to the rules and punishments we faced if we broke those rules. Also like I always tell my kids I was loaded down with homework and studying to do every night. Plus started doing some type of work outside of school from about the age of 10. That is on top of the nightly chores our parents had been making us do since we practically started to walk. If I made the mistake of ever saying to my parents I'm bored they would find another chore for me to do. When we had to do research we had to go to the library. There was no internet to get on and research everything.
   I think every generation has things that they feel sucks for them.  I remember being a kid and thinking mom you can't understand. Like she never had to deal with the same crap I did as a kid. She did and now that I am older I realize that. She had a rough childhood too. When my daughter's say to me mom you just don't get it. I constantly tell them I was a teen girl with all the same problems than some. I was the girl that did not fit in at school. But I also did not fit into my family. My kids have been told and know all to well what my childhood was like. How I felt as a teen that I could not escape any mistreatment matter where I went. Well, at least not until I turned to God for help. At school I was bullied and treated like I did not fit in. Like because I didn't follow the crowd I was not okay as I was. Eventually around the age of sixteen I went from refusing to change to please people to: This is who I am I don't care what you think.
  For me when other kids thought partying was cool and drugs were fun I did not. Not the kind of partying most my peers or kids even close to my own age seem to think was fun. I had been seeing every day of my life since the day I was born the results of drugs, drinking alcohol, and even smoking can do. I grew up with brothers who had addictions in these areas. Some who if they read this now still would not admit it. I started to see at a very young age that the party when choosing to party in that way did not last. That is had the opposite effect. Since then I have continued to see it in loved ones lives. I myself made a conscious choice that I would never walk that rode. I learned young there is other ways to enjoy life.
  My escape when I was younger was faith in the end. Before that I was an emotional wreck. But faith slowly through the years would be what completely cured me of the damage the abuse and all the junk I went through growing up. It is what cured me of feeling so alone.
    At the end of the day we all an pick things in our childhood matter what generation that we did or do not like. Yes, bullying has gotten out of control in schools. What amazes me is the kids that complain because of simple dress codes or school rules of any sort. the reality is we needs rules/laws are the world would become more chaos than it is now. Even adults have rules. Most people even have a dress code to follow at work. In the adult world when you don't follow a dress code time and time again on a job you can lose your job. The most kids usually get done to them when dressing inappropriate at school is detention and/or told to turn the shirt around.  So my response to kids would be who have a loving parent or two enjoy your youth. Because we all have rules we have to abide too. Just as adults we are held more accountable and the punishments tend to be steeper. Also remember as a child you are responsible for much less than you will be in the adult world.
  Reality is as much as one may thing their life sucks in the here and now. They need to think about the fact that things could be worse. There are kids that have it much worse. So look at your own life matter where you are in life and realize if you are blessed to have a roof over your head, loving people in your life even with the bad ones, and food to eat you have much more than some people could ever dream of in this world. I even realized when I was an abused child that there is always someone who ahs it worse. But that everything in life happens for a reason. That even the bad God an use. For me he left me born into a family that already had tons of issues and allowed me to go through what I did because he knew I would come out of it stronger and to be the person I am today. The mother who broke the chain of abuse in our family. the woman who lets other children vent to her and will speak for them to others for help when they fear to do so. The women who can speak from experience of how that lost abused, bullied, and confused child feels. The women who can show by her own life that there is a life after being a victim. That there is light at the end of the tunnel and some day if they walk the right path they will no longer be a victim but a survivor.